Reset how you relate to your partner, your kids, and yourself using Human Design
Reimagine what’s possible
Are you and your partner…
Having the same arguments on repeat?
Feeling stuck, stalled, or disconnected?
Not laughing or feeling close the way you used to?
Walking on eggshells or feeling emotionally unsafe?
If so, there’s nothing “wrong” with you or your relationship.
More often than not, what’s missing is language for needs, boundaries, feelings, and repair.
Relationships are built on needs, and I help you communicate them clearly
Using the lenses of Human Design, Non-Violent Communication (NVC), and relational coaching, I support individuals and couples in transforming the way they communicate, connect, and repair.
All that is needed is a willingness to be honest, vulnerable, and open to seeing things differently.
“You not only helped me gain clarity about my career path, you saved my marriage"
— Cristina D., Alaska
A 90-day container for real transformation
A living, responsive process, tailored in real time to what’s actually happening in your relationship & within you.
Over 90 days, we work together to:
Unravel stuck patterns and recurring conflicts, especially under pressure
Restore emotional safety and trust so you feel free to speak your truth
Understand how each of you is wired through Human Design
Reconnect to joy, intimacy, and ease in your partnership
Build relational skills you’ll use for the rest of your life
What’s included
REGULAR 1:1 SESSIONS
Most sessions are held together (as a couple), with individual sessions woven in when helpful.
Sometimes the work needs to happen together. Sometimes it needs space.
Unlimited Support Between Calls
You’ll have access to me via messaging for questions, reflections, and support as things arise in real life.
Human Design–Informed Guidance
We use Human Design to understand how each of you is wired, how you make decisions, process emotions, handle conflict, and communicate under stress. This removes blame, and replaces it with understanding.
Needs-Based & NVC-Informed Communication
You’ll learn to speak the language of needs so that conversations stop escalating and start connecting.
In-Person Sessions (when possible)
If location allows, we can meet in person to deepen the work.
The structure is organic and flexible, always in service of what supports the most growth and clarity.
"We were feeling stuck in our relationship, even though we felt like we were doing everything right- communicating well, being good people and parents, using all of the resources that we knew to have harmony in our marriage and with our kids, and then Diederik came along as the Human Design expert. It was a tool we hadn’t really explored, as well as the Non-violent Communication- it opened new doors we never thought we needed to go through. I learned that there’s no wrongness. Feeling frustrated, sad, none of it’s bad, it’s just part of life. Even when things got sticky we still made it fun and playful. If you’re needing to breakthrough that stickiness- you need to call Diederik. Now I feel safe enough to be vulnerable, and that’s what has created intimacy and emotional closeness with my partner over the 90-day journey."
— Martine, Costa Rica
On the other side of this work, clients often experience:
fewer reactive arguments
clearer communication under stress
increased emotional safety
validation and confidence through Human Design
deeper intimacy and trust
a sense of being on the same team again
more freedom, ease, and laughter
Not because life becomes perfect but because you know how to meet challenges differently.
"We came into this work thinking we needed business advice, and what we got out of it was a lot. We got something absolutely different. You don’t get what you want, you get what you need, always in divine timing. The biggest takeaway for me during this 90-day journey is realizing that I didn’t know her as I thought that I knew her. The perception I had of my partner didn’t match reality. During the sessions, the veil was taken down on the interactions. When the veil dropped, I became more curious. It felt incredible. Freedom. The haze is gone. There’s a movie and then there’s reality, and now reality is freedom, clarity, calmness, understanding, and more playfulness. Working with Diederik, it was more than just needs-based language. His presence is the biggest part of it. He was translating what was happening into each of our languages. Through the Human Design lens, I also understood how I operate and could see our family dynamic differently. With our daughter, I’m more gentle now, and she talks more. It gave a freshness to our relationship after nine years."
— Vlad, Costa Rica
Hi, I’m Diederik
I'm a 5/1 Splenic Projector with the Left Angle Cross of the Alpha. In other words, I'm an intuitive guide designed to support deep transformation in my community and tribe through recognizing each individual's natural gifts and talents. I've been working with Human Design for over 10 years and have facilitated over 1,000 client sessions. At some point I realized that understanding your design can only take you so far if you cannot clearly express who you are, how you operate, and what you need. Nonviolent Communication (NVC) became the missing link to practically apply the Human Design in everyday life and bring more ease and safety into relationships. Through years of working closely with individuals, couples, and families, I've honed my ability to listen deeply and understand the needs behind the words or feelings. Real change doesn't come from pointed fingers or implied wrongness. It comes from clear communication, true recognition, and a willingness to commit to yourself and the process
"If you want to function in more of an alignment on a day-to-day basis in your relationships, in your long-term goals for your vision for your business, and even for yourself - Diederik is the man. He is an absolute genius at Human Design and his coaching ability to connect with you on a human-to-human level is literally out of this world. I would hands down, 15 out of 10 recommend you to work with Diederik and he will absolutely transform your life like he’s done mine."
— Alex Sundar, Calgary