Are you the pioneer in your relationships?
You don’t have to change anyone around you to transform your relationships.
It begins with one person deciding to show up differently.
The one who decides that freedom in relationships is the ultimate goal.
Is that you?
Do you find yourself…
Having the same arguments on repeat in different relationships?
Feeling stuck, stalled, or disconnected with the people around you?
Walking on eggshells or unsure how to say what you really feel?
Reacting in ways that don’t reflect who you want to be?
If so, there’s nothing “wrong” with you or your relationships.
More often than not, what’s missing is language for needs, boundaries, feelings, and repair.
These patterns show up everywhere in life: romantic relationships, friendships, family dynamics, and even at work.
And when one person begins to learn that language, everything about how they show up in relationships starts to change.
Relationships are built on needs, and I help you communicate them clearly
Using the lenses of Human Design, Non-Violent Communication (NVC), and relational coaching, I support individuals and couples in transforming the way they communicate, connect, and repair.
All that is needed is a willingness to be honest, vulnerable, and open to seeing things differently.
“You not only helped me gain clarity about my career path, you saved my marriage"
— Cristina D., Alaska
A 90-day container for real transformation
A living, responsive process, tailored in real time to what’s actually happening within you.
Over 90 days, we work together to:
Unravel stuck patterns and recurring conflicts, especially under pressure
Restore emotional safety and trust so you feel free to speak your truth
Understand how you and others are wired through Human Design
Reconnect to joy, intimacy, and ease in your relationships
Build relational skills you’ll use for the rest of your life
What’s included
REGULAR 1:1 SESSIONS
Sessions are held one-on-one.
Twork focuses on your inner patterns, beliefs, and communication style and how these show up in your real relationships.
Unlimited Support Between Calls
You’ll have access to me via messaging for questions, reflections, and support as things arise in real life.
Human Design–Informed Guidance
We use Human Design to understand how you and those closest to you are wired, make decisions, process emotions, handle conflict, and communicate under stress. This removes blame, and replaces it with understanding.
Needs-Based & NVC-Informed Communication
You’ll learn to speak the language of needs so that conversations stop escalating and start connecting.
In-Person Sessions (when possible)
If location allows, we can meet in person to deepen the work.
The structure is organic and flexible, always in service of what supports the most growth and clarity.
"It is an absolute delight to work with Diederik. I felt immediate resonance when I engaged with his content on youtube, and felt a pull to work with him one on one. He holds beautiful space, allowing me to fully explore and express, and then helps me to hone in on grounded action items. In the few months I've worked with him I have made leaps of progress in my health, my work/life balance, and my business. Somehow all of this has been accomplished through D's joyful, peaceful presence so that the whole endeavor feels easy and clear. D's authentic and genuine care and witnessing are exactly what I need as I level up my service to the world, and refine my routines and self-care so that I can continue to make a big impact long-term. If you are drawn to work with this gifted coach, trust that. D is a wonderful ally and coach and his grounded presence and guidance are so needed on the planet during this time.
— Robin, Colorado USA
On the other side of this work, clients often experience:
fewer reactive arguments and more thoughtful responses
clearer communication, even under stress
greater emotional safety and confidence in expressing themselves
validation and clarity through understanding their Human Design
deeper trust, intimacy, freedom, and ease in their relationships
Not because life becomes perfect but because you know how to meet challenges differently.
"I have transformed more in these past nine months than in the rest of my life combined. Working with D offered me the most precious gift of all: the security of knowing, deep within my being, that I was not alone. In every one of our exchanges, and even in the spaces between them, I felt seen, heard, and recognized. His presence created a fertile ground for transformation. A huge, sincere, and heartfelt thank you!"
— Charlene, France
Hi, I’m Diederik
I'm a 5/1 Splenic Projector with the Left Angle Cross of the Alpha. In other words, I'm an intuitive guide designed to support deep transformation in my community and tribe through recognizing each individual's natural gifts and talents. I've been working with Human Design for over 10 years and have facilitated over 1,000 client sessions. At some point I realized that understanding your design can only take you so far if you cannot clearly express who you are, how you operate, and what you need. Nonviolent Communication (NVC) became the missing link to practically apply the Human Design in everyday life and bring more ease and safety into relationships. Through years of working closely with individuals, couples, and families, I've honed my ability to listen deeply and understand the needs behind the words or feelings. Real change doesn't come from pointed fingers or implied wrongness. It comes from clear communication, true recognition, and a willingness to commit to yourself and the process
"If you want to function in more of an alignment on a day-to-day basis in your relationships, in your long-term goals for your vision for your business, and even for yourself - Diederik is the man. He is an absolute genius at Human Design and his coaching ability to connect with you on a human-to-human level is literally out of this world. I would hands down, 15 out of 10 recommend you to work with Diederik and he will absolutely transform your life like he’s done mine."
— Alex Sundar, Calgary